Today we picked Heather Locklear. Here's Wednesday Wickedness!
1. "With a parent, it's always guilt. You want to be there, but you kind of also want to be here." Tell us about a time where you had to be selfish with your time, and felt guilty about it (whether it was time taken from your children or a S/O).
Both my current job, and back when i was in the National Guard, occasional (OK, a LOT more so when i was in the Guard) i have to work odd shifts and the result is i need some recovery time. I am not sure guilt is entirely accurate, but there were times when i wish i could have changed things, but i also knew i needed to take the time in order to be there later.
2. "Sex appeal is not on purpose." Do you feel that you can create more sex appeal or that it's just a given?
To some degree it is a "given". Genetics can determine somethings, skin tone, hair color, eye shape and color, etc. however, what you do with it, how you present it, play a HUGE difference. The length of a skirt, body posture, voice inflection, etc. are manipulated for one thing... to bring about a desired result. In the case of "sex appeal" it is to attract attention to oneself, to basically "advertise". If Lindsay was to go out in public with little to no make up, an average haircut, and frumpy clothes... i am pretty sure it would be harder for heads to turn.
3. "One man is not enough." Has there ever been a time when monogamy seemed difficult?
No, and i am not just saying that because my Beloved reads this blog from time to time. I have a hard enough time working on how to relate and communicate with her (not that she makes it harder, it's a personal deficiency with me). I cannot begin to imagine what that would be like with multiple spouses.
4. "I think I've always been good so God wouldn't strike me dead." Do your religious beliefs really influence your behavior?
Of course they do. Dictionary.com defines religion as follows (#1 of 5): a set of beliefs concerning the cause,nature, and purpose of the universe, esp. when considered as the creation of a superhuman agency oragencies, usually involving devotional and ritual observances, and often containing a moral code governing theconduct of human affairs. While i am not one for ritual observances (mostly), my belief in God dictates how i respond to situation, how i think, what i do. No matter who you are, no matter what you belief, your view on "religion" in general, dictates how you respond to life's choices.
5. "You just have to forgive them for being men." Do you feel there are some things in a S/O that you can't change because of their sex?
Duh! My Beloved thinks on a whole other plain than i do. When i climb into bed and i am ready to go to sleep, i want to go to sleep. Rollover, turnout the lights, and close the eyelids. However, my beloved cannot begin to think about going to sleep without some sort of decompressing conversating. When i recount an interaction her questions to me are, what did you say (specifically), what did they say (specifically), how did they react. She wants to know how the "connection" went down. Me, all i care about are the bullet highlights. My poor Beloved has not been able to get a satisfactory answer in over 17 years - despite my efforts.
6. "When I look in the mirror I see the girl I was when I was growing up, with braces, crooked teeth, a baby face and a skinny body." Do you see a younger less secure person when you gaze in the mirror?
Nope... i see a spreading, gray-haired, man, who has to force himself to look at people when they talk to him, and to trying to figure out things like small talk. While i have glimpses of who i was, i don't really remember the boy who is now a man.
7. “I was a pregnant vixen.” If you have ever been pregnant, or have been with a woman who was, how did effect your sex life?
Um, while that time is personal, i will say that i did notice a change.
8. “Everything needs to be worked on...” What would you like to work on to become a better person?
Wow... that could take a while, but here is a brief list: To be able to pay better attention to people's names, to remember the details of what people are saying, to be able to focus on tasks long enough so that each of them get done in a timely manner, to remember dates that are important to other people, to remember that not everyone wants to hear my thoughts on all matters or even how a life experience of my own is pertinent to the conversation at hand, that my Beloved doesn't always want me to fix things - sometimes she really does just want me to listen, to learn how to play an instrument - WELL, i could go on... but... i am pretty sure i lost most of you already.
9. "From an early age, I was aware of what America meant, and how the Marines at Camp Pendleton were ready to defend us at a moment's notice. I also remember what fabulous bodies those troops had." When did you think that you understood the sacrifices that people in the military make on behalf of their country?
To be honest, not until i had joined up and began to serve myself. Even then, it was a lesson learned deeper the longer i served, and especially when i was called up to active duty and each time i served for flood duty. My deployment for Hurricane Katrina and Rita profoundly changed my life.
10. "The bigger the better. Do I dare say that!?" In your experience, is there truth here?
No, not always. Sometimes it is all about what you do with what you have. A "little" guy can out perform a "big" guy with the right kind of training.